We recently talked about the power of the ear in terms of pleasure, and we told you some tricks to get the most out of it to a sense that we can have something forgotten, and we name a practice that can get us very excited, the dirty talk.
As we already explained, the dirty talk It is a practice that you may have put into practice almost without knowing it, when you whisper to your partner that you love how he moves or when you ask for more or less rhythm while you are having sex. we talk about how this technique can benefit you in bed and how to put it into practice.
What is dirty talk and what is it for?
He dirty talk, also called the art of dirty talking in bedit is not just saying dirty things to your partner, it is the method to increase arousal and desire using the sense of hearing as a tool, and using descriptive language to increase pleasure throughout the sexual encounter.
Not only does it allow us to connect with our partner, improve communication (key for a relationship to work) and increase desire and arousal. It also helps us get out of monotony and try new things. and best of all: it’s free and we can do it at different levels.
Daryl Cioffi, a neuropsychologist, said in Medical Daily that “talking during sex we like so much because stimulating the brain at the same time that we stimulate our body with sexual activity, produces exponential arousal”. More excitement, more pleasure.
How to do dirty talk
Don’t think that he dirty talk it is insulting, nor use bad words (which also if it is what turns you both on), it is rather to use the words to create images in the brain of your partner. Put in your voice what you want and what you are going to do, and reinforce what you like, telling them.
If you have never practiced it I tell you two things to keep in mind. As in any other sexual practice, it is important that both people in the encounter agree to carry it out and that it is consented at all times. If you don’t feel comfortable, don’t do it, because there is too much variety in sex to do something we don’t like. The second piece of advice is to start with something soft like “I like how you kiss me”.
The background is as important as the form, and the voice we use will be key for this practice to work. We want to excite (and get excited), so Bring out your most sensual side and whisper in a deep voice, slowly and close to his ear. What we say is up to each one, but we give you some examples to inspire you: “I want to lick every inch of your skin”, “I love how you look at me” or “you have the most sensual lips I’ve ever seen in my life, and I want them to go through me from top to bottom.
We can use questions like “Do you like what I do to you?”, or use slightly more risqué language such as “I really like it when you eat my pussy”, for example. he dirty talk It is not incompatible with romanticism. We can combine both in a “I’d be fucking you like this for the rest of my life” or “if you keep touching me like that you’re going to make me fall in love”, something that I’m sure they’ll tell you if you follow our advice on how to masturbate your partner (you are welcome).
Do not rule out saying what you want them to do to you “bite me on the neck”, and even use a pleading tone with a “don’t stop, please”. And do not forget the power that a “how I like it” it can have on your partner if we also combine it with a nibble on the ear.
And one last piece of advice that science gives us, according to a Sam Houston State University study “words with emotional content have more impact when we perceive them with the left ear”, and we remember them better, so use it to your advantage and speak in the left ear because it works.
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