I know what you think. Another term that I will have to learn. As the cricketing. Or the benching. Or the orbiting. And the worst thing is that sometimes we learn these terms by force, because they hurt us and we have to respond to what we don’t know what’s wrong with us.
Well, this time it’s not so bad, because we’re talking about a tendency to flirt at the height of the apocalypsing although not toxic. We could say that it is even practical. Unromantic? Can. But it is very practical. We all have a friend who does hardballing in their relationships and if you don’t have it, it’s you.
what is the hardballing
This term comes from English and being as clear and concise as possible is just that: being clear and concise with your intentions when you have a date. The idea of hardballing is to be 100% sincere from the beginning with your intentions and expectations before a relationship.
I give you an example. You’ve matched on Tinder with a really cute guy, with an ideal job and with whom you have a lot of conversation. I’m not talking about banal conversation. I’m talking about good conversation. You stay, you ask for two glasses of white wine and looking into his eyes you say: “I don’t want to be a motherI would like live as a digital nomad in different countries and not having a fixed place to stay until they are very old. If this is something that is not in your plans, it will be better to leave it here.”
There are those who may think that it is a sincericide. Others may think it’s unromantic. But It is highly effective to avoid wasting time. And it can be done even before having that first date, with the match at the beginning. We could say that it is a sieve that prevents us from being with someone who is not looking for the same thing as us, who does not have the same lifestyle or who does not have the same ambitions.
Can be done hardballing with our plans for the future, but also with the essentials that we look for in a partner. Be careful with this, let’s not fall into it ground hogging (sorry, one more term to learn today), that all it will do is make life difficult for us. It is about that person meeting standards in important things, that we are on the same wavelength.
We all have a past that has made us learn the hard way and my past includes many There are many lies that I don’t want to be repeated, so among my absolutely immovable essentials that I look for in a partner are: that he be a good person, that he does not lie to me, that he wants to travel and has time to do so, and that he makes me laugh. Everything else is completely accessory, but If at first you do not comply with those four, next.
Life is short, friend. And we are not here to waste time with people who do not want the same thing, so do hardballing It’s not as bad as it seems, I tell you from experience.
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