It seems that this mother does not care much about her children’s privacy and is willing to cross boundaries just to protect them.
At present, many methods and alternatives for education and teaching have been shared based on respect and understanding. However, it has also been discovered that children are now more vulnerable than in previous years, mainly due to the different technologies available to them.
This leads us to ask ourselves, how far are parents capable of going to protect their children?
More than one will admit that they are willing to do anything to keep them safe, regardless of whether the actions cross the limits and invade their privacy. This commonly happens in adolescence, when children seek independence and belong to another group outside the family. Given this, the parents may feel the threat that their offspring may abandon them or become more independent.
Many parents are sold on the idea that as parents and providers, they have the right to invade their children’s privacy. The worst thing about it is that if it were someone else, they would be totally respected. This type of action can cause a severe break in the relationship with the parents and therefore it is important to be able to establish a border to know how to delimit the lives of both.
Unfortunately, some caregivers prefer to turn a deaf ear to the recommendations. For example, Laura Museum, a woman who does not seem to care much about the independence of her children and who was strongly criticized on social networks. She is the mother of two teenagers and apparently she often checks her cell phones, with the excuse that she does it to protect them and, in the end, her devices are hers.
“The cell phones are mine, I pay for them. I can consult them whenever I want. People think it’s disrespectful or an invasion of privacy, but that’s how I do it.”
Laura is a 41-year-old woman who lives in North Carolina, United States and works in the area of mental health. She affirms that she is just a good mother who is aware of the safety of her children and in a video that she published on TikTok he confesses what he usually does to protect them.
Apparently she confiscates the cell phones of her two children, Cohen and Kylie, every night before they go to bed. In this way, she prevents them from sleeping late due to being distracted on the cell phone or possibly sending messages.
However, he apparently also takes advantage of the night to review what his children have been doing with their phones. Let’s highlight that the boys received their cell phones at the age of 11 and since then Laura periodically observes what they see, where they enter or with whom they speak.
At first, Laura began to do weekly checkups without prior notice. Although her children did not like the idea at all, they had no choice but to give in to her mother’s requests, since they knew that it was the price they had to pay if they wanted to continue using it. Now that they are teenagers, checkups are done more sporadically, but they are still surprises.
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Laura points out that it’s not that she doesn’t trust her children, but that this is just to protect them from potentially dangerous situations. However, her confession was not well received on social networks.
Going through your children’s cell phones is an invasion of privacy and shows that you don’t trust them. They will never be honest with you again”; “I would have a heart attack and my heart would stop if my parents checked my phone”; “How is he going to school after this?”; “My mom doesn’t check my phone unless she gives her a reason not to trust me.”
Meanwhile, there were also several teenagers who said that they usually delete much of what they do with their mobiles precisely because their parents do not trust them.
“I delete half the stuff on my phone when my mom checks it”; “You know, you lose our trust every time they do that”; were some of the comments.
The entry Mother confesses that she checks her children’s cell phones: “They are mine, I pay for them.” It was first published in La voz del muro.