Misogyny is not exclusive to couple relationships and unfortunately it can be present in many places. We can come across a misogynist on the street, on dating apps, in a bar, or anywhere.
Today we are going to learn to detect a misogynist in 18 keys endorsed by experts, but first, we are going to briefly explain what misogyny is and what its origin is historically speaking.
Brief history of misogyny
Misogyny is a term that comes from the Greek μισογυνία, formed by “miseo” (hate), and “gyne”, (woman), which translated is “I hate women”. It is not something recent, in fact if we analyze misogyny in different historical periods we will see how since the time of Aristotle, for example, women have already been degraded.
The witch hunt of the Middle Ages, an excuse to slaughter women who saw different. The refusal of the female vote. Jack the Ripper’s murders of prostitutes and thousands of other crimes that we have been able to see even in series like you from Netflix. The cinematographic representation of the femme fatale that they painted as a seductive and horrible woman (and that ended up having the opposite effect), the forced anonymity to which women were subjected in the world of literature and a long etcetera that it would be impossible to enumerate and that are only a tiny brushstroke in a historical photograph that well deserves a separate article.
Misogyny in the 21st century
Unfortunately, it is not a term that has fallen into oblivion, and it is still present today in recent attacks on women in iranFor example, a fact of misogyny in the 21st century. Even he body shaming that actresses like Berta Vázquez have suffered or the case of Elías Ahuja Residence Hall They are an example of misogyny.
The cases of sexist attacks, gender violence and machismo are proof that misogynistic attitudes are promoters of violence against women. Misogyny in our society has finally been seen for the serious problem that it is and according to Paula Martín CastresanaGeneral Health Psychologist and Integrative Psychotherapist of the DAMAR Center, “unlike previous historical moments, the 21st century has opted for the eradication of violence against women, for example, promoting social awareness and making legislative changes.”
Misogynists outside of relationships
We not only find misogynist profiles in couple relationships. The work environment is another environment in which. If your boss favors other men instead of looking at work qualitatively and not by gender, if they reject a woman’s ideas just because she is a woman, or if he selectively ignores women to give you some examples.
You can also have a misogynist in your family nucleus, among your group of friends, community of neighbors or any other social environment.
How to spot a misogynist easily
I wish seeing a misogynist was as easy as discovering all the red flags of the most bizarre First Dates quote. But there are times when they blend in with us and the mask doesn’t show so well. And beware, misogyny does not understand gender as far as the issuer is concerned. We can come across misogynistic women just like misogynistic men.
Fortunately, there are experts like Berit Brogaard, author of On Romantic Lovewho have described typical behaviors and we have compiled several keys to detect a misogynist and thus be able to remove him from our life and we are going to share them all because that is sorority, friend.
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1.- It is possible that this has happened to you at work and it is that a misogynistic person can appropriating a woman’s ideas and passing them off as his own without giving any credit to the woman who actually had the idea.
2.- They do not accept the success of a woman. In fact this is a red flag of which we already spoke to you at length. If he is not happy about your work success, detracts from it and even annoys him, he is a misogynist..
3.- In this line, the misogynist envies a woman’s work and is highly competitive with them, always looking to stay above. An example: if a woman is doing better than him socially or professionally, it is because she “has slept with someone”. Instead with a man she is able to see the situation objectively.
4.- They have a tendency to infidelity in relationshipseither physical or emotional since they consider that they are better than them and they have the “right” to take what they want from the female gender when and where they want. Monogamy is not something they feel they owe to any woman.
5.- In sex they are selfish. Their own pleasure is the only thing that interests them, and they even use it as a weapon against their partners. They have a tendency to control in bed and do not care about the pleasure of their partners. They demand sex as their property and as such, they also deny it to their partners. What has been a full-fledged egoist. Besides, they are one of those men who demand a fellatio but they refuse to make a cunnilingusFor example.
6.- At the level of couple relationships, they are not only controllers in bed, but also outside of it. Your partner’s opinion never matters. in any aspect of the relationship.
7.- If you like to be treated in a certain way as a woman, the misogynist will act completely opposite to what you want because in his sick mind, he is the one who decides and not you.
8.- At work, a misogynist will treat you differently than your peers masculine. Your criteria, your work and your merits will always be below that of your fellow men in the eyes of a misogynist.
9.- It is more than likely that misogynist and narcissist shake hands. In fact, a typical trait of misogynists is that They appear charismatic and irresistible when they choose a victim, very much like love bombing.
10.- Over time, and if we are talking about a relationship, the misogynist can go from night to day in seconds. He is kind and then ruderude and hurtful, as if he had a hidden face to Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
11.- The misogynist promises and promises but doesn’t deliver, something that we will not see happen to him with men. For example, with his friends he does things that he promised to do with you.
12.- He treats women in a completely different way than he does with a man in different social environments and in the workplace. Interrupt, correct and criticize without measuresomething that will not do with another man.
13.- A misogynistic woman has a tendency to insult and criticize other women, while a misogynistic man demonstrates it with his treatment of them and with the way to relate to the female gender.
14.- The misogynist is controlling, selfish and arrogant, practically considering that women are his property. So much so that they are capable of do cricketing knowingly, and return to them when it deems appropriate.
15.- It seems silly, but a misogynist is not late for his appointments with friends, but he is always late for those with women. He doesn’t mind wasting time if it’s a woman.
16.- Do jokes about women, putting them down in public, and belittling anything coming from a woman is classic misogynist behavior. As an example, the famous phrase behind the wheel of “woman had to be”.
17.- Use a aggressive language when addressing a woman in different life environments. If it’s your partner, he can ridicule you in front of a group of friends without breaking a sweat.
18.- The misogynists They can lead to physical abuse as well as psychological which we have already told you about. If it happens, please don’t shut up. Can call 016 for helpGo to the authorities and report the attack. Remember that good relationships are the ones that don’t make you suffer in no way.
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