I have recently gone through a couple breakup. 14 years of relationship and lots of accumulated memories that, even with the passage of time, continue to appear in the least expected places. A t-shirt that he gave me. A concert ticket. A note with “I love you”. The cork of a bottle of wine.
But what surrounds us the most are photos, especially on social networks, that channel in which we turn our lives and that works as the trunk of Karina’s memories. It gives us back moments that hurt, whether we love that person or not.
On the way we meet tips to get over a break up all types. One of the best you will see is this: mark yourself a sanitizing.
What is sanitizing in social networks
If we translate the word literally, “sanitize” is a term that in English means to sanitize. Disinfect. Sanitize something. AND sanitizing It is the act of sanitizing that we are going to do with our social networks.
Risto Mejide stopped following Laura Escanes in networks after her divorce. Miley Cyrus did it with Liam Hemsworth, and then the song of Flowers that we love strong Shakira idem, with several songs related to her breakup on the road for which She has been judged as a “scornful”.
Well, unfollowing is only the first step, because With sanitizing, what we will do is completely clean any trace of your ex-partner on social networks.. As if it had not existed. Delete the photos of him that appear in your feed, delete the highlights of your selfies while traveling, the videos in which you appear happy and content.
Ilana Gershon, an expert in social networks, affirms in her book The Breakup 2.0 that the ideal is to “unfollow him on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, even if it seems hard cutting off someone in such an extreme way. It’s better in the long run because it will help you avoid the temptation to cyber stalk him. What’s more, if you have a lot of their friends on your social networks, it might be worth deleting them too. Even if it’s for a while.”
It’s not about hate or grudges, it’s about turning the page. Eliminating its trace will be like opening the window in a room with a stuffy environment, letting in fresh air. Obviously it is linked to a “no stalkeo” premise. If we obsess over looking at his Instagram profile all day we will be constantly seeing what we want to avoid and that can make it difficult for us to forget that couple.
Although be careful, that this sanitizing It can get out of hand and we want to get rid of anything our ex-partner has bought, touched and even seen. It’s about facilitating our healing process, not wiping you off the face of the earth. Although sometimes we would like it if we find out that she has been unfaithful to us. Ahem.
If the relationship ended on good terms, you may just need to get away from social media for a while and you do not need to erase the trail that that ex-partner has left in your life. If you have had the ability to speak and leave the relationship well, you can explain to that person that you need a time without following him on social networks to be able to start from scratch.
You do sanitizing or not, the important thing is that we give ourselves time to heal. Because friend, I tell you from experience that it is overcome and that when it is done, it stops hurting. Who knows, if you insist on this new stage you may even find the love of your life: yourself.
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