In addition to telling us what it consists of the famous skin cycling or how to make us the diamond lips perfect, TikTok also has space to talk about coffee, viral dances, sex, the Titanic and even relationships. Everything has a place in the infinite social network.
As for what TikTok tells us about relationships, and what ends up being mobilized, it is not always what is explained on the social network. we saw it with the beige flaga term related to the appointments that we do not need, and with the so-called proximity crush. The same thing happened to us the box theory which explained that a man only needs 15 minutes to know what he wants you to be in his life (whether it’s true or not).
Well now there is a new theory that has gone viral and we are going to explain it to you. Is called the “three month rule”.
What is the “three month rule”?
The “three-month rule” that has gone viral on TikTok claims that three months is the time we need to know if our couple will have a future or not.
In those three months that this rule talks about, we can find out if we are looking for the same thing and if we have the necessary ingredients for the relationship to last and be healthy.
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And although it has some truth, it is not a rule that we have to believe at face value. Psychology does not establish that the optimal time is three months, not one or six. In love, it is not black or white, unless we are facing a misogynist and then it’s really black and you have to run away from there. It is possible that in your case you need more time, although it is unlikely that you need less.
It is true that there are many specialists who support the idea of waiting before going for another partner, something that we already saw when we talked about the importance or not of a perfect first sexual encounter with a new partner. Three months is enough time to know someone’s peculiarities, but it is also true that there are signs that indicate that something is not going to work sooner for those three months to pass.
Beyond what to do questions to meet someone is one of the best ways to get to know that person in depth, the calls red flags they can tell us beforehand that it is not there, and it would not be necessary to wait that long to end that relationship. For example, that you use the “push and pull” technique with you is a sign that it is not going to be a healthy relationship.
Beware of trusting only time
Laura Petiford, a licensed marriage and family therapist, explains that you have to be careful with the in-love phase, which can go fast in the first moments. “Although beginnings can be exciting, they are not an adequate foundation for a sustainable relationship,” especially if the person in front of us has been making us love bombingFor example.
In three months we can check if we have with that couple a affective responsibility appropriate, but that time is not the same for everyone. Each person needs a rhythm in relationships and maybe in three months it will not be enough for us to find out if that person is the one we want to accompany us on the road.
Taking time to think about what that relationship means to us is vital. “It is important to know yourself and taking the time you need to establish that the person you met the first day is someone you want to spend time with the next day. And the next,” Petiford explains.
Be it three, six or nine, the rhythm and time in your relationships is not set by TikTok, it is set by you.
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