When it comes to dating we have seen many different trends. group dating, apps where only women can make the first move and even some inspired by Black Mirror in which you are paired for a while with only one person.
Being single (or single) in the middle of 2023 is not an easy task, I tell you from experience, and especially if you have come out of a very long relationship and this Tinder thing has fallen far away and it seems more like the Netflix content catalog than an application to meet someone.
That’s why I gave it slow dating has caught our attention, as did the slow sex at the time (movement of which we declare ourselves absolute fans). He slow dating allows you to meet your soul mate without rushingon a slow fire, and there are already many applications to meet someone that work by following just this movement.
What is slow dating
Luis Fonsi’s song (which is obviously on our list of the sexiest songs, perfect for a night of passion) already said it: “slowly, I want to breathe your neck slowly, let me say things in your ear…” And so, slowly, is how we want to date this year. Calmly. No hurries. Taking our time, we would have gone to the gym to run.
He slow dating it is a trend in which slower dating is practiced, with more interactions and questions and an interest that goes beyond physical attraction. It is the tendency to get to know each other as it was done before, with fewer swipes that seem more like the fast food of dating, and calmer to get to know someone in depth, without rushing and focusing on personality and everything that makes us unique.
There are already applications that do it like the one in adopt. As they explain to us “The appointments where interest in the other and unforgettable experiences predominate, leaving sex aside, are now the main objective of many young people who are beginning to forget about disposable relationships”, explains Laura Solé, Country Manager of adopte. “Getting to know each other, connecting and feeling comfortable and motivated before moving on to other fields, that is the key to everything.”
They look for a connection that goes further, that’s why they change the rules of the game. So much so that the latest study on the app reveals that 65% of single people have set out to find love in 2023. Although I tell you one thing, if we don’t find it, nothing happens either, we’ve already told you that loneliness is not the antithesis of romantic love.
How to practice slow dating
Let’s start by telling you that “having a type” a profile of a couple that we like, for example, tall, dark, green eyes and muscular, is something that is no longer carried. “We want authentic relationships that leave us learning and that are not determined by rules. We are no longer looking for profiles with ‘coincidences’ in tastes, but rather those who call our attention for what they are because this is what opens the door to new worlds for us”, affirms Laura, so forget about the physique and the schemes that we have in our heads is the first step to want healthy and find love with him slow dating.
Taking an interest in the other person, their tastes, their hobbies and their opinions is, according to adopte experts, “what determines the success of a relationship. There is nothing that produces greater attraction than worrying about another person, taking an interest in what they do and feel.” And for the person who receives it, it is a shot to the self-esteem.
He slow dating It can be the precursor of a very beautiful love. It is the first love letter in history, the one that in the fifteenth century the French Duke Charles of Orleans, locked in the Tower of London, wrote to Bonne de Armagnac. It is that prequel to unhurried love, calm. Of the love that cares, listens and pampers. The one who looks at us proud and admires us. Of the one that does not make us suffer. Of the love we desire and deserve.
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