Learning to set limits on others is not easy, especially when we have to do it with the closest people, like our friends. But let’s remember that talking about limits is synonymous with self-love.
Self-esteem is extremely important for our well-being in all areas of our lives and although it is a very deep subject, we must emphasize that one of the key points of having good self-esteem, in addition to setting limits, is security.
We emphasize this by the publication of the TikTok user Kaeri, who recounted an experience she had with Lissa, one of her friends, who blocked her after asking her not to use crop top and the tiktoker would refuse
It all started when the friend asked Kaery not to wear this type of clothing because her boyfriend turned to see her a lot. At her request, the tiktoker He told her that this was a matter of their insecurities as a couple and that, in any case, she should talk about it with her boyfriend.
After that, Kaery showed the conversation where Lissa agreed to pick her up at 6:00 pm, but asked her not to wear that garment because her boyfriend was going out with them. However, Kaeri explained that this was not her problem.
For her part, Lissa stated that she did not want to cause an argument, but that whenever she uses crop top everything shows and it is more than obvious that her boyfriend turns to see her. In addition, she assured that she does not look good on her. Kaery, not satisfied with her friend’s response, pointed out that she feels comfortable wearing them and that it is not her problem if it causes insecurities to arise in her.
However, Lissa didn’t take it well and after insulting her and mentioning that Kaery was doing it on purpose, she refused to go through her and blocked her.
This unfortunate story that went viral on TikTok leaves us with many things to reflect on, especially the way in which we project our insecurities onto someone else when in reality it is up to us to give ourselves that value, love and respect so as not to reach the point of feeling intimidated. much less allow our partner to make us feel insecure.
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Our emotional and mental health is more important than any relationship, be it with a partner or with our friends. Respecting, loving and accepting ourselves is the key to being happy and calm in all aspects of our lives.
Later, the tiktoker posted another video where you can read that Lissa’s boyfriend had been attracted to Kaery for a long time, which fueled her friend’s insecurity. In addition, she asks you to please block her boyfriend’s accounts so that they have no communication or any contact.
But you, dear readers, what do you think of this? Was Lisa’s request right and Kaery wrong to refuse? Self-love is a daily practice and only corresponds to ourselves.
