Join me in this sad story. Ana is 37 years old and 19 years ago she met a boy, let’s call him Pedro (fictitious name). Pedro and Ana studied together, they got along well and there was always “something” between them. We could say that Pedro is Ana’s “almost something”.
Pedro confessed to Ana one day that he had always liked her after talking non-stop for a couple of weeks. She had always liked him, and thinking of him as her partner made her face light up. The day after the confession, no trace of him. A year later, Ana’s mobile screen lit up again with an enthusiastic “Hello Anita!” As if it hadn’t been a year since she stopped talking after, moreover, dropping the bombshell.
After several days of conversation things got worse and everything seemed to indicate that what Ana imagined would happen would finally happen. niente. She disappeared again, this time for six fucking months. And then Ana understood that what Diego Peter wanted It wasn’t a relationship, I was just making him diving.
what is the diving
From the creators of breadcrumbing arrives he divinga term that comes from the word submarineeither. In fact, it would be something like “making a submarine”, because it refers to that gesture of this type of ship to disappear without realizing it, to emerge again a long time later.
He diving applies to someone who disappears suddenly and without warning, reappears. It’s ignoring someone for a while (more or less long) and coming back as if nothing had happened. This is what Pedro has done with Ana on two occasions and it is an unequivocal sign that this person does not want to be your partner.
As is the case with the breadcrumbingThis type of ups and downs and relationships full of pauses in which they are neither with you nor without you, are disastrous for those who suffer them, as the psychologist and sexologist Mamen Jiménez explains to us. “Your attention from her doesn’t come because of something we’ve done, but because it’s “good for her now” for whatever reason. And this makes us dust.”
Well then, make you a diving It is the signal that we need to tell our little heart and our head that “it is not there”. It is not a beige flagbut one red flag that proudly waves in front of you so that you can see it well.
The person who hasn’t written to you in a long time has no interest in you or in being with you, because this is not Josh and Michelle’s story on Tinder. If he doesn’t write to you, he doesn’t show interest and He doesn’t even take 20 seconds to write to you in months, he doesn’t want to be your partner. No more no less. Don’t be like Ana. I tell you from experience that the sooner you let go of that “almost something”, the better it will be for you.
Photos | Toa Heftiba and Ан Нет in Unsplash
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