There’s a new trend in relationships, and it’s more likely than you might think that you or anyone you know has fallen for this trap. You are in a bar drinking wine and the next day you are imagining everything you could do together, the trips you will have for weeks, you even think about whether you would be a good father or mother and what you would call your children.
You see your future partner as “the couple” without enough time having passed. It may be the result of that it is difficult for you to find a partner, something that has a lot to do with the social context. Some call it daydreaming, others have called it emotional masturbation, and was born after the pandemic. we tell you what does the apocalypsing and why is it more toxic than it seems.
what is the apocalypsing
The term arose from a Canadian dating app, Plenty of Fish, which after a survey included it as one of the new dating trends after the pandemic. He defined it on his YouTube channel as “Treat every relationship like it’s your last and get super serious with someone you just started dating.” That is to say, he apocalypsing is treat each relationship as if it were the last.
A third of the singles surveyed said they know someone who has done this, and Gen Z appears to be the most prone to it, with a third admitting to the trend. In addition to this generation flirts again in barshe does it with the idea that this person he knows is “the definitive one”.
He apocalypsing It is a term that appeared after the pandemicbut becoming prematurely attached to a partner was common even before COVID, reports the psychologist and marriage therapist Danielle Forshee. The difference is that now this propensity to quickly latch on to a potential mate as if it were your last chance at happiness is stronger.
This term also appears in Guide to avoid falling in love, by Marc Fàbregas and Ivana Muntán, as one of the new terms to label behaviors on the sexual-affective level. He apocalypsing They explain it as a relationship that, for one of the two people, “is a dream come true, almost as if it were the last chance of his life.”
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Why it is not good for you (nor for your partner)
Let’s understand something: it can happen to anyone. You meet someone, you see lots of wonderful things in that person, you feel great, but you step on the gas without thinking about what might happen next. You may have been through a breakup you’re trying to get overor simply that you are depositing all your expectations in that relationship as if it were the final one without knowing if it will be.
Whoever practices it does not know the other person well enough, and we are not talking about a relationship going fast, or that it will not work, but we are talking about wanting to give him the keys to your house two weeks after meeting him and asking you get married when you’ve been dating for a month. Is rush the relationship without realizing it.
Connecting with someone is precious, but we have to take time to see how things are going without forcing it to work yes or yes and also, become a forever relationship. Love has stages, and if we speed up too much it is possible that we burn them prematurely and become unhealthy relationships.
Perhaps if we want the relationship to work we overlook red flags (like all the ones we saw in the most bizarre quote First Dates), that we idealize the other person more and that we overlook situations or behaviors that we do not want in our lives, just for the fact of moving forward with the relationship and obsessed with making it work. This fact can lead us to ignore our own needs or force the person who is with us to be how we want them to be.
Although it can also happen that the relationship goes quickly because both members of the couple are at the same point, have the same values in life, seek the same thing, are compatible and work together. That a relationship goes fast is not synonymous with failurebut if you feel that you are doing apocalypsingConsider if it is for fear of loneliness, and think about whether what you have is what you really want or not.
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