I don’t know how many times my friends have told me that they don’t need to masturbate because they have a partner, as if having a partner was an impediment to giving us love alone. masturbate has so many benefits, beyond reaching orgasmThat missing out on this sexual practice for having a relationship seems crazy to me.
Reduces stress, activates the hormones of happiness, gives us pleasure… In addition, masturbation is wonderful to know our body and our pleasure and that is exactly what can affect our relationship. And not for bad.
Why masturbating with a partner can strengthen your relationship
When we masturbate we learn about our body and our pleasure, and If we know ourselves well, we have in our possession a weapon of mass destruction to achieve better orgasms. For example, if we explore our G-spot (or any other) we can tell our partner how to find it, and it is just that Being able to tell our partner what we like and what we don’t which makes sex even better because yes, pleasure and desire are closely related: the greater the desire, the greater the pleasure.
And although cultivating desire is independent of our marital status, if we increase it we will be improving something necessary in our relationship, since Sex is, according to experts, one of the fundamental pillars to maintain a couple (although there are exceptions).
Masturbating is one of the best tricks to increase our libido and with it, improve sexual desire. As the psychologist and sexologist María Esclápez explains in her book sexual intelligence“the motivation that initiates the sexual response is none other than desire”, and this can be cultivated alone or with a partner.
Sexual intelligence: Practice intelligent sex. Develop your sexual potential (Lifestyle)
And one more thing. No one has talked about the fact that masturbating has to be done alone. I’m not just talking about how to masturbate your partnerI’m talking about touch you with your partner. Watching how he touches himself and shakes can be very exciting. Don’t see it as a prior (touching is not a prior to anything, it’s sex too), but as a way of practicing sex without resorting to penetration.
This sexual practice can become just as intimate as any other and a great way to flee from coitocentrism. It will allow us to see how our partner is touching (and replicate it later when we are the ones touching) and can become an aid to get out of the routine in sex. This of practicing self-love with our bodies is all advantages.
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