I’ll start at the beginning, and it’s that for a long time and despite what it may seem that’s why I write about sex and relationships, my sex life has been equal to nothing. Rather, My sexual life has been so mine that only I gave myself pleasure. Masturbating is a subject that I have studied over and over again as the class repeater who is 20 years old and is with 15-year-olds in the classroom.
He had a partner, in fact one with whom he had been with for 14 years. But there are times when sex as a couple disappears, in this case because the one who He was my boyfriend I didn’t want to have him. I won’t judge, I’m not here for that, but I will tell you that the lack of sexual relations made me consider leaving himalthough we finally left it for different reasons, although that is beside the point.
In all that time of relationship, the subject of being able to squirte had always caught my attention, and since I’ve always been very forward when it comes to trying, I tried it. A lot.
Squirting and my attempts to achieve it
the squirt isas the sexologist Mamen Jiménez explained to us in this article, “a strong expulsion of a quantity of liquid (transparent and odorless) through the urethra, the result of the pleasure obtained during sex.” The literal translation of squirt In English it is chorro and it is just that: a squirt that occurs when we have an orgasm.
In 1984 the so-called “female ejaculation” was already being studied and according to this study, 54% of those surveyed stated that they had experienced an “orgasmic expulsion of liquid” at least once in your life. Surprise: I was not among them. And she sees that I tried masturbating, but there was no way. In fact, I thought it was something that was out of my reach.
I read a lot on the subject, and tried over and over again with both my hand and sex toys with no results. Was she broken? I became obsessed at times with getting it but no matter how hard I tried, there was nothing I could do. And hey, sex is to enjoy, so I gave up.
Well, after leaving it with my partner and following all these tips to get over a break up, something (or rather someone) came along that broke with that idea that I had in my head. we could say now I look like a water Pokémon, very Squirtle-like, without being me at all.
How did we manage to do squirt
I am not going to explain how it happened physically and in detail (if you want to know How to do an squirt follow these three steps) but I will tell you two things that, in my opinion, are essential to achieve it: arousal and sexual release.
The big key to getting orgasms is to get excited and not be in a hurry. Like in peaking. We don’t want to run, but we do want to cum, and desire and excitement play a fundamental role, even more so in this case. But I would say that relaxation and feeling sexually free, without ties, is even more important.
The importance of feeling free and relaxed
I had always given importance to recreating myself, in my pleasure and enjoying it but I think that, despite having a liberal and open mind, I had never felt completely free with my sexual partners.
The fear of rejection, of feeling weird, of not being enough, of making a fool of myself, of being judged. Everything was crowding me. Not to the point of making me feel anxiosexuality but if to inhibit myself. But things change and in this case I think that the key was not only in the hands of the person who got the magic, but also that my head clicked and got carried away like never before. Nothing mattered, there was only pleasure surrounding me as if it were in a cloud that touched my whole body. That letting go and flowing was just what I had been missing before.
Not thinking about “do you think I pissed myself?”, “the same thing you think I’m a slut” and dozens of other questions disappeared by magic. I just let my body take control and enjoy like never before, because I can assure you that the day i made my first squirt It was the day I had the biggest (and best) orgasm of my life..
To think that we know everything and that we have tried everything, sexually speaking, is closing doors to pleasure. Now it’s not that I do squirt every time I cum, it doesn’t work like that, but I don’t deny that it hasn’t happened to me more than once because if there’s something that sex has taught me recently, it’s that when you least expect it, you can learn to enjoy it more. And it’s just what I’m doing.
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