Nowadays, it is very common to read or hear that our own happiness, stability and peace of mind depend solely on ourselves, never on a third party or something external. However, when we do not understand all this well, we tend to fall into dysfunctional relationships, which far from giving us the peace we seek, cause us more internal wars and more emptiness.
Girls, really, these words are just an invitation to put order in what we really need. In the first instance, from us to be able to share our best version with someone else and, above all, to be with a person who offers us the same. This is part of the famous affective responsibility.
We say this because we knew the story of the man who opened his heart 53 times to 53 women, marrying them to find the perfect partner. I mean, it’s okay that we lose our fear of love, but good enough to marry so many people? It seems a bit exaggerated, don’t you think?
Of course this happened on the other side of the world. Abu Abdullah is a 63-year-old Saudi man who has earned the nickname “the polygamist of the century” for having been married 53 times. In an interview for the Show saudi tv mbc, The man assured that his goal in getting married was always to find stability and peace of mind, not personal pleasure.
In addition, Abu stated that the first time he married he did not plan to have a second wife because he felt comfortable and already had children, but as in all marriages, the problems began and that is why the man decided to marry again when he was barely 23 years old.
However, that only made things worse, because, at a certain point, a strong difference broke out between the two wives, which “led” him to marry for the third and fourth time. Later, Abu divorced his first three spouses. The man added that he believes that the reason for his multiple marriages was the search for a woman who could make him happy, as well as that he tried to be fair to all his women.
In addition, Abu Abdullah reported that he not only married Saudi women, since due to his work he used to travel abroad a lot, so, in order not to “fall into sin”, he married women from other countries to “protect himself from the vice ”.
Yes, we know that this does not sound very convincing, taking into account that the laws that govern us do not allow bigamy, much less polygamy. However, it must be remembered that in cultures like Abdullah’s it is quite normal, because in Islam it is allowed to marry up to four women at the same time, but if the man cannot treat all of them fairly, then he must marry. with only one
Meanwhile, Abu Abdullah is married and it is not among his plans to do it again. Finally, he advises the following generations to marry older women, because based on his experience, he says that stability is not found with a young woman, but with an older one. Will be?