A love break can be a really difficult experience to manage, whoever lived through it knows that it is difficult to turn the page. The first days, weeks or even months can be very complex: “You live a real emotional roller coaster in which you can go from resentment and anger to pain and nostalgia or sadness and guilt”, they explain to us from TherapyChat. In addition, the mourning process for the loss is not only from the relationship but also “by habit of life together.”
However, there are various resources that can help us deal with this experienceand that the experts consulted list from talking openly about our emotions with someone close, spending quality time with those around us to resuming one of our favorite hobbies or even enjoying a good film production.
And it is that, a study carried out at the University of Essex found that there are films capable of reducing feelings of malaise and symptoms of depression, promoting a state of emotional well-being that can help us overcome those sad moments. So, Isabel Aranda, Health Psychologist at TherapyChat, has recommended some that can become a good resource to “reflect on a breakup and learn valuable lessons for future life.”
story of a marriage (2019)
Scarlett Johansson and Adam Driver star in this film about a broken marriage trying to navigate divorce proceedings while leading separate lives between California and New York. Our expert recommends it because it is “as real as it is heartbreaking and reveals the way in which each character faces that love break while discovering with amazement how they are changing during this process”.
It is, in short, “an intense film that brings to light the painful consequences on a personal, professional and family level that the end of a relationship can cause, but also shows that it is possible get over a break up, rebuild as people and move on“, sentence Aranda.
Eat Pray Love (2010)
“end a relationship does not always have to be negativesometimes it can be an opportunity to rediscover ourselves, reconnect with ourselves and rediscover the things we enjoy most in life”. This is the reason why the expert recommends watching Eat Pray Love.
The character of Julia Roberts is a woman who, after several sentimental failures, decides to rediscover herself through a trip around the world. Aranda warns us that it is “a slow and very visual film” but that “it invites us to put ourselves in the shoes of this woman while she rediscovers many of the small pleasures and meets new people who will help her remember who you are and what you want in life“.
The life of Adele (2013)
The TherapyChat psychologist reminds us that “a rupture never happens by chance. It often takes shape over time and takes shape with each disagreement and diversity of criteria that are accentuated as we mature as people and stop sharing the same vision of life with our partner”. Thus, she considers The life of Adele a clear reflection of how a break in a relationship is brewing.
And it is that, for our expert, this French film reveals “with great sensitivity” the illusion of first love and the first sentimental break, “inviting us to reflect on the underlying causes of a separation that often go unnoticed.” It is for all this, a very emotional and profound film that “encourages anyone who is going through a separation to analyze what is behind the break, this being a first step to be able to accept what happened and turn the page“.
Grace and Frankie (2015-present)
Although a breakup always hurts, especially when you spend a lifetime with that other person, “It’s never too late to pick up the broken pieces and move on”This is the message that the psychologist encourages us to remember by watching the seven seasons of this humorous series. In it, Robert and Sol, friends and associates for decades, decide to make their relationship public and leave their wives.
This is a series that, at first glance, may seem easy to laugh at, but “in reality, it reveals the psychology of the characters of Grace and Frankie, two elderly women who They see their marriages fall apart from one moment to the next and they must reinvent themselves“. For Aranda, without a doubt, “it can help us forget the pain for a while while it makes us reflect on the breakup and shows us different ways of dealing with it.”
Claire and Claire (2019)
“Love breakups often affect self-esteem. Many of the people who end a relationship, especially if they have not taken the first step, feel rejected and belittledso they not only have to face the negative emotions that separation generates, but also low self-esteem,” the psychologist explains.
This is precisely the idea reflected in the film starring Juliette Binoche, a mature woman in the midst of an existential crisis who is abandoned by her husband and who resorts to embodying a young dancer on social networks to try to recover lost love, illusion and the beauty. “It is a story of great psychological depth that makes us reflect on the importance of going through the duel after a separation and give us the necessary time to heal before turning the page and moving on“, sentence Aranda.
However, the expert reminds us that if we feel that we are not capable of coping with the emptiness after a separation or we are having a hard time overcoming it and we do not see ourselves capable of ending the process of overcoming it, it might be advisable to go to a psychologist who “will help you face this moment and give you tools not only to overcome the breakup but also to emerge stronger from it“.
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