Currently, more than half of couples last approximately 10 years. However, only a third of them are really happy.
Over the years, movies, books, series and even novels have been in charge of outlining the concept of love. In show business, we commonly see the idea of eternal love and what it entails, showing us couples who normalize certain attitudes and that we inadvertently adopt as a rule. These can range from constant gifts, the continuous presence of the other in your life, or public displays of affection. However, nowadays the perception of romanticism has expanded and now you can see different nuances of the subject, such as extreme jealousy, the feeling of possession or the fact that not all beautiful gestures are pleasant for all people.
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Now there is more freedom when forming a relationship, there is more freedom and romanticizing harmful and aggressive attitudes has been set aside, in addition to denying “the love of a lifetime”, which although it can happen, is very hard to get it. It is for this very reason that a branch of psychology has been dedicated to studying happiness, specifically in this case, during a relationship and its duration. What’s interesting is that experts apparently recommend changing partners every 5 years.
In recent years, 50% of couples have maintained their relationship for more than 10 years. However, only a third of them confessed to being totally happy. As the years progress, divorce rates are increasing and one of the main reasons why couples do not want to get married.
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The Spanish psychologist, raphael santandreu mentions that many relationships remain thanks to jealousy and dependency. These are risk factors if left unchecked and can reach unsuspected extremes.
The expert mentions that one of the secrets to happiness is that you change your partner every 5 years or when you feel the need. That is, when you realize that the relationship no longer has a future, when you don’t feel good about the other person or simply when you want to end it. According to Santandreu, humans are not programmed to have a lifelong relationship.
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In the same way, he mentions that in past generations “love” lasted because men believed that women belonged to them. In those days it was frowned upon and even more difficult for a woman to get a successful divorce. Women were strongly criticized if they mentioned the desire to separate, therefore the man felt he had the right to decide and think for his wife, having the idea that he could not leave him.