We continue to hunt for toxic trends when it comes to relationships, because they say that sharing is beautiful, but we don’t want beauty but healthy relationships for everyone.
That is why we have told you about the excuse for not committing to the Zetas, which they call situationships or the tendency to flirt that some people use thinking that it does not hurt called kitten fishing.
Today we are going to explain another Anglo-Saxon term that, unfortunately, seems to have come to stay. Although the word is new, the truth is that this type of relationship has always existed and continues to be just as toxic as before, even though it has been given a new name. We talk about the couples cuffing.
what are couples cuffing
When you read the definition it might seem to you that we are talking about boomerang relationsbut the truth is that they differ from them in something: the seasons. The term is cuffing and it consists of spending the winter months with someone to leave the relationship in summer. The reason? That in winter I have fewer plans and I don’t want to be alone, and what I do is go out with someone, but in summer I want to go partying and I don’t want a partner. There are people doing it. More than we imagine.
It is born from the English term “cuff” (wife is one of its meanings) and would be something like “handcuffing”. In fact in the United States they even have a “wife season” or cuffing season. Crazy.
the psychologist Silvia Congost, an expert in emotional dependence, self-esteem and toxic relationships, explains that “between the beginning of November and the end of February, human beings feel a greater predisposition to be in a relationship, to have a more or less stable relationship and to commit to a higher level if they already had couple”. He cuffing It is a temporary relationship that forms between September and March. Right on those dates.
That’s when they look for a stable partner to spend the cold nights in company and end the relationship when it gets warm. There can be a consensus as in relationships of friends with benefits and that both members of the couple know what there is and there is a affective responsibility between them, but it may be that one of them does not know that they are in a relationship cuffing.
The truth is that the cuffing It’s not a healthy relationship, whether they both know it or not, because we’re trying to fill an emotional or emotional void. avoid loneliness seasonally and without establishing a real connection and commitment as a couple, just by not being alone. In addition, it may happen that one of the parties feels a greater connection or want to go deeper into the relationship, which is painful for a of them if the other only wants something temporary, and it can generate an emotional dependency.
How do I know if I’m in a relationship? cuffing
If it has not been consensual, identifying if you are in a cuffing relationship is easier than it seems. He starts talking to you in mid-September, showing a lot, a lot of interest in you. I might even make you love bombing. You are together and everything seems perfect. You have a relationship with a movie, a blanket and Netflix every weekend. But in March he leaves you or asks you for a time, and you hear from that person again in September and wanting to return. If it has happened to you, it is cuffing.
If you identify it and you didn’t know you were in a temporary relationship, it’s best to talk to your partner. If you’re both okay with keeping that relationship as it is, fine, but if you want more commitment, maybe it’s time to let go of that couple even if it costs us.
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