Did you know that one of the curious facts about Valentine’s Day has to do with the fact that many couples break up just a few days later? Science may not be able to explain this particular phenomenon, but the truth is that after Valentine’s Day, there is a behavior that seems to torment more than one couple: the rupture. You want to know more? In Supercurious we tell you, continue reading!
The phenomenon after Valentine’s
Since the origin of Valentine’s Day, year after year, couples that at first glance were united by love appear completely dissolved a few days later, as if the science of love had taken it upon themselves to destroy them, without any explanation… Despite this, scientists from all over the world have come together to find out what really happens after Valentine’s Day; and it seems that they have found the answer!
Just a few years ago several studies appeared by two American legal reference companies called Attorney’s Fee and Avvo, which corroborated what many psychologists already knew: couple breakups suffer a brutal increase, at least 40% after Valentine’s Day.
Despite this overwhelming number, you need to ask us why. However, in order to give you an answer, we have decided to echo some of the interpretations made, at the time, by Richard Komaiko, the co-founder of Attorney’s Fee, who describes detail by detail what happens after Valentine’s Day. Likewise, we add some current considerations about the reasons that lead thousands of couples to break their relationship right after Valentine’s.
1. The importance of a good couple evaluation
The problems that trigger the breakup days after Valentine’s Day have to do with the balance of the good and bad things that have happened, because according to Komaiko, “many people are constantly evaluating their divorce, trying to make up their minds”and for this expert, Valentine’s Day is a turning point to decide if the relationship is bearing fruit or has already withered.
It is for this reason that February 15 begins a busy time for divorce lawyers, Well, in the wonderful month of love and friendship, divorce claims increase by at least 38%.
It may surprise you or your partner that there are couples who don’t reassess their relationship together from time to time, who don’t keep the lines of communication open, but according to Attorney’s Fee, it’s quite common for couples in crisis to stay in touch. state of waiting until a trigger, such as the days after Valentine’s Day, clearly shows that something is wrong in the relationship.
2. There are problems on Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day is a date on which unfaithful people usually feel great remorse, because they are in charge of building a facade of what they believe a relationship should be. However, they do not realize that this attitude is only one of the many consequences of loneliness, which can have both their partner and the same person. In general, after Valentine’s Day, “the person who cheats on the other is caught in the middle, since he has to satisfy his partner and her lover.”
At this point it is worth talking about one thing: there are problems in the relationship! And it needs to be talked about, especially before February 14. You see, Valentine’s Day is one of those dates when we’re supposed to show love, this is a fundamental reason to explain why the days after Valentine’s Day are one of the highest breakout peaks of the entire year.
3. Factors that influence after Valentine’s Day
Not talking and mistrust are not the only factors that can contribute to a breakup after Valentine’s Day; In reality, Komaiko maintains that it also has to do, for example, with the fact that January is the month with the most bankruptcy filings, and that in addition, the cold of February forces the couple to be at home without being able to reconcile their points of view. In any case, the way in which Valentine’s Day is celebrated could be considered as that straw that breaks the camel’s back for couples who already have problems.
But… What about the rest of the year? A lasting relationship is not based on one wonderful day in 365, but on a constant display of affection. Complicated? Well, no one said it was easy. And it is that for many couples Valentine’s Day becomes that moment of reflection in which the balance of the relationship comes “to pay”. As if it were an annual income statement, the members of the couple look into each other’s eyes and discover that they are together for a thousand reasons that have nothing to do with themselves.
It seems unbelievable that this would happen in the 21st century with such an amount of information, but the truth is that now more than ever we live the phenomenon of liquid lovewhich will be affected after Valentine’s Day.
It seems that you don’t know how to distinguish between the different types of love that exist and when we think we love someone we simply get married and, when falling in love passes, many of us have already chained ourselves to hundreds of properties together to make it more difficult to separate. Some of us already have a mortgage, dogs or even children in common.
We don’t realize that no matter how many properties we share, if our evolution as individuals separates us from the other part of the couple, it will be destined to end (especially after Valentine’s Day). Cultivating love is not a thing of a day nor does it have to do with adapting, giving in or enduring, but loving, respecting and communicatingbeing grateful and carrying out all those positive actions that long-lasting couples carry out on a daily basis.
We hope this article has inspired you to dedicate love quotes (or maybe you are phrases for your ex) to your partner; remember: the basis of everything is in communication. And in case you are one of those who is single, Do not hesitate to visit our 36 questions to fall in love in minutes. I hope they help! 😉