He love It has multiple bridges that link us to third parties. And to see how we really fell in love, the science made a investigation that dazzled everyone. According to a study carried out by Boston University, the attraction to the personality of the other is one of the strongest points and from there that feeling can be born that is difficult to break with the passage of time.
How to know beforehand who I am going to fall in love with?
According to science, it has been observed that a common or disagreeing factor is enough for us to know if we want to have a relationship with that person. This is based on something known as self-essentialist reasoning and could be leading us to miss out on meeting a lot of interesting people. So, that first contact (even if it is not for love purposes), reduces the niche of people we can meet and interact with.
The explanation happens because we believe that all our opinions or preferences go in a pack, so that if someone has one, they may also have the rest and that will make us fall in love. It is a thought that arises from the fact that, when we think about ourselves, we have a lot of information, but we don’t know as much about other people, so we fill in the gaps of uncertainty with our own perceptions, as detailed in the investigation.
Scholars from Boston University recruited a group of people to do this analysis and told them about the views of a fictional character on one of five highly relevant topics: abortion, the death penalty, animal testing, euthanasia or possession of weapons. Once they were given that information, they were questioned about the roots of his identity. To do this, the researchers devised a survey aimed at establishing how close each person was to self-essentialist reasoning. Those who were closer to self-essentialism tended to be more or less likely to establish a relationship with the fictional character if they agreed or disagreed with his opinion on a single issue.
Consequently, the science determined that many times romantic relationships begin simply as the attraction to establish a friendship with a person. Then the brain and hormones come into play: testosterone awakens sexual desire, oxytocin promotes attachment to the other person, and dopamine and endorphins cause that familiar fluttering of butterflies in the stomach. Once all that happened, we found the love of our life.