The feminine energy lives in everyone, like the masculine; It is not a gender issue. Both energies are archetypes, sets of characteristics and attitudes that we all have and that we do not always allow ourselves to express and take advantage of. However, if we want our lives and our relationships to be harmonious, we must welcome and recognize these two complementary tendencies and not reject either of them.
It happens that, on a social level, feminine energy is devalued. Everything that has to do with femininity, softness and emotions is underestimated. These manifestations are considered ridiculous and unimportant, and a masculine energy is over-encouraged which, while also helpful, is unbalanced without its complement.
If you want to know if you reject your feminine energy and how this may be impacting your well-being, we invite you to continue reading.
What is feminine energy?
Feminine energy has to do with being, feeling and flowing. It is subtle, soft and loving. It is closely related to emotional expression, cooperation and affective nutrition. Thus, a person with a healthy feminine energy expresses the following behaviors:
- He has the security to show himself as he is, without the need to please, please or solve life for others. Knows that simply “being” is enough to receive affection.
- He is in contact with his emotions, knows how to identify them and allows himself to feel them. He expresses them without fear, he can be vulnerable and he knows how to welcome and accompany the emotions of others.
- Is flexible and flows with the environment and circumstances. He does not force and seeks enjoyment and self-realization in what he dedicates his time to.
- It is aware that we are interdependent beings and not afraid to cooperate and bond with other people. Appreciates, cultivates and nurtures their social relationships and encourages exchange.
On your side, masculine energy is all about doing and giving. She is focused on competition and individualism. She is stable and firm: she knows how to set goals and work to achieve them; it is oriented to success and productivity. It is these characteristics that are sought after and encouraged on a social level. And, although the masculine energy helps us to materialize our goals, to move forward and to be firm, this does not imply that we should reject its counterpart.
Feminine energy is related to the emotional and affective sphere.
Signs that you reject your feminine energy
It is normal that one of these two energies predominates in each of us (it does not matter if you are a man or a woman). Now here are some signs that you are rejecting your feminine energy:
1. Bad relationships between women
Especially if you are a woman, you may find it difficult to relate to other women and that you do it from competitiveness and envy, and not from mutual support.
It is common for the woman who rejects her feminine energy to have a complicated relationship with her mother and generally prefer to have male friends.
2. You seek to differentiate yourself from others
In line with the above, also it is common to reject everything stereotypically related to femininity. Women who reject this energy may hate the color pink, refuse to wear makeup, or not want to participate in “girlish” games or plans if they are still in their teens.
Obviously, all of the above is a social construction and does not belong to women “per se“; however, a marked rejection of it can be a way of differentiate of other women (the feminine, what is not right) and approach men (the masculine, the valid and accepted). Although in some cases it simply reflects totally lawful personal preferences and tastes, in others it hides a rejection of the feminine essence, considering it inferior and ridiculous.
3. You have difficulty receiving
Do you have a hard time accepting a compliment or receiving a favor? Do you find it difficult to get pleasure and let others take care of you and entertain you? This may indicate that you need to heal your feminine energy.
If this happens to you, it is likely that you are also a very helpful and decisive person, dedicated to giving yourself to others and who establishes unbalanced and inequitable relationships.
4. You do not allow yourself to enjoy
Enjoyment is very typical of feminine energy. However, there are many people who they deny it because they are completely focused on doing, on being productive, in striving and working harder and harder. Moments of rest are not allowed (they feel useless) and they do not consider that it is possible and that it is their right to enjoy what they do.
5. You fear emotional intimacy
The emotional world is complicated, overwhelms you and makes you feel uncomfortable. You are not able to recognize, understand or manage your feelings, it is difficult for you to express them and you tend to flee or avoid when you do not feel well. Being vulnerable and depending on other people scares you and seems like a weakness.
Equally, You find it difficult to accept and validate the emotions of others. The intensity and emotionality of others make you uncomfortable, and instead of nurturing and comforting, you tend to minimize their feelings.
6. You are a rigid, ruthless and competitive person.
You draw fixed goals and rigid plans for your life and tirelessly persevere to achieve them; nevertheless, you have a hard time accepting changes of direction or mishaps. You often find yourself forcing situations and it is very difficult for you to ask for help.
Feminine energy is valid and necessary
If you have felt identified or identified with the above, you may need to reconcile with your feminine energy. In doing so, you will lower your stress levels, you will enjoy your day-to-day life more and your relationships will be more fluid and satisfying.
We all need direction, goals and firmness, but also support, cooperation and emotionality; do not deprive yourself of either of these two aspects.